As I picked up the phone to talk to my beautiful friend who was crying about another disappointment with yet another guy, I realized how often women tend to loose theirselves in men. We also have this illusion that he will change or maybe realize one day how great we are. She allowed another person to take a little more of her worth as she asked me why she wasn’t enough. I said to her, dear sweet girl, you are more than enough! Until you believe that, you will continue to choose the wrong men. She has numerous people in her life that love and adore her as I’m sure so do you!! We all have a loving God who whispers in our ears daily how wonderfully made we are. I know without a doubt that each and every one of us is more than enough ladies. I know that we are worthy of all the blessings life has to offer, but In situations like this it is obvious many of us do not fully believe any of it! Knowing and believing are two different things. If you find yourself reacting by yelling, crying, or telling someone they made you feel this way! Guess what? No one can make you feel anything without your permission The ways I think and feel are on me. My thoughts and feelings are my responsibilities. I have to believe that everything in my world is exactly as it’s meant to be. I have to believe that there is a plan for me far better than any other plan I have come up with on my own. I believe that if it isn’t right, I will know it!! Other people’s issues or lack of commitment have nothing to do with me!! Trust me when I say this love is a good thing. Love isn’t hurtful. It is really simple to love and be loved. When someone really loves you, you know it. As my friend whom is in a loving marriage says, “true love is bigger than we are.” It may never make sense, but you know You have it when you find “that person” who accepts you for who you are and “the one” you don’t want to live without. You make each other better people. This is real love.
We have to stop letting men who simply are not capAble of loving us into our lives. Unavailable men will tell you what you need to hear upfront! Listen to them!!! Wait on the one who is available!! You have to stop trying to convince him that You are greAt because guess whAt? You are!!!! The right man is going to see it. The right man is going to appreciate it. The right man will not have you on the floor or on the phone crying to your friend. The right man will call you, wine you, dine you, and want to spend time with you! He will love your quirks and appreciate your wit or wisdom. So ladies why do we continue to try and put a square peg in a round hole? Why do we continue to hope he will change or hope he will wake up one day and see us for the magnificent catch we are? Why do we tolerate unacceptable behavior? Why do we loose ourselves in hopes that he will just love us in a way we desire? Why do we take him Back time and time again when nothing ever changes? Why do we believe his bullshit? Why do we allow him to take advantage of us and take us for granted? Why do we as beautiful wonderfully made women waste our time on a man that is not worthy of our hearts or souls? Well I can tell you why I have done these things. Why? Because I want to find true love too badly. I get lonely and sad, and At Times I have tried to “make it happen” I want someone to lay down at night with and wake up in the morning with. I want someone to lAugh and love with me. I do not think these things are too far fetched. We all need love in our life. Thomas Merton in his book , Love and Living says, “Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone-we find it with another” so yes!’ Love is my destiny! Love is what we all want and need. To love and be loved is one of the greatest blessings we can we can ever bestow on someone and ourselves. But, we can not find this true love until we are able to give it to ourselves first. Today I challenge you to take the first step in loving yourself more! Fall in love with the beautiful soul you are and continue to become the best version of yourself you can be and I promise you the rest will fall into place.