Tainted LOVE


One of my college sorority sisters favorite all time 80s song is TAinted Love! Some of our most fun moments were awaiting Mel and The Party Hats to play that one, and when it finally made the set list, we danced our hearts off as we sang every word. I still dance around the car or house every time  I hear it, and I always imagine Amy and her moves as if she’s right there dancing with me! Sometimes I even record myself and snap it to her! As many of you know, I have been on the dating apps and I have decided that song appropriately describes the the way of the app world in my eyes. First of all, so many of the men and women on these apps appear to be tainted. Webster’s defines tainted as 1. To affect with putrefaction (spoil) 2. To contaminate morally(corrupt)  3. Obsolete: to become weak.   If you read my last blog, you heard about the low hanging fruit theory. Well I believe this low hanging  fruit is tainting many peoples chances at love time and time again. I recently met a guy and I had two phone conversations with him. There were a few red flags so I chose to stop communication.  He literally continued to text me because he wanted to know why I dumped him. Well, the last I checked two phone calls does not warrant anything but two phone calls and in order to be dumped there has to have been a relationship which there wasn’t even a date so that is impossible and I don’t tend to jump into relationships after a phone call! This is a prime example of my tainted theory. People see your bio, your pictures, and your social media, they have a few text exchanges and a couple phone calls and all of a sudden they want to know if you want to get an apartment together! Yes, I was asked about that! Tainted!!! Tainted because so many people are jumping into things before they even begin! Tainted because people are throwing themselves at one another! Tainted because people have become way too easy! Maybe it’s becAuse they are so desperate to get off the apps! Lord knows I get that, but if you get on the apps with the right mindset and you are in the right place in your life, you can avoid being tainted and you can avoid tainted people because you will spot them quickly! I believe that I need to be at the top of my game. I need to be happy, self supporting, and ok with Being alone! Some people are so scared to be alone they take whatever they can get! There is no question about it that I want to meet my MR. Right! I love love! I love the idea of finding someone to grow old with and laying around  with all day long just because I can. Of course  I do not like being the single girl at all the parties, but the only tainted love I want in my life is our favorite 80s hit! So I am holding out for the real thing! My best advice to anyone on the apps is to stay true to yourself! Loneliness can make you weak! Don’t let it!! The easy ones sending u  pictures or risqué texts  may be sure fire catches, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right person! Define your morals and your value system and stand firm! Don’t let anyone corrupt that! We are who we surround ourselves with! I choose to wait on a  not so easy smart intelligent cute  guy who makes me a better person not someone who tempts and taints me!  Its all a matter of who and what we really want! As for me, I may be a little lonely but I’m holding out for “the one”  I have no doubt he is out there and I’m 100% positive he won’t ask me to marry him after two dates because good really untainted things take  time people! So  Hang in,  hold on and wait on what God has in store for you! Its going to be even better than you can imagine!! Meanwhile you will still  find me dancing around the house to the song, but I’m going to be running from the first sign of anything  else tainted!!! 

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