Sororities, Sisters, Shops, and Slurpies


Isn't it funny how someone else's story can take you back, and make your past make even more sense. First go back with me Twenty Five years ago as I went to my UNA mailbox that I rarely checked to find I had received two bids from the open rush parties I had been to. Well, if you know me then this won't come as a shock, but one of the bids was past the deadline to accept it. So I immediately rushed to the office of Kim Mauldin who was in charge of panahellic at the University at that time. She made a call, and she said I was able to extend your deadline. So I had 48 hours to make up my mind which one I wanted. At that time, I was a cheerleader and all the other girls on the squad wore one set of letters(the ones who gave me the extension). The other sorority seemed so fun too. Something about the girls struck me. I do not know if I've ever shared this with her, but I can still remember a girl they called Bell being so cute and funny at the party. She had such a presence in those pink shirts. Well, my heart was saying go to the pink but my head said go with your cheer girls. Of course, if you know me this isn't a shock either, I didn't want them to be upset with me. When I asked my Mom what I should do, she said to me "Go to God." So here is what I did.. I literally said to God, "give me a sign" I knew I could be happy in both. I loved all the girls I had met in each of them. I said, "The next jersey I see will be the one I pick". Well the next three jerseys I saw were Phi Mu pink! So Phi Mu it was. My cheer girls were so happy for me and they remained my friends all
Through college. We were already like family and Greek letters didn't change that.
Now let's go back one year ago to Rush at UNA. 24 years later than my experience. There were these twins from Madison going through. These girls had shared everything their whole lives. As they told me their story yesterday, I had chills. I learned they shared a womb, DNA, a bedroom, and even sonic slurpies. They said their mom would always only get one and they still laughed about always having to share it. They made the decision that they were going the same sorority. They were the twin sisters who let everyone know they were to be sorority sisters too. The night before bids, they made up their minds (hard decision) which one they were going. If you have ever been part of rush then you get this, Both sororities they had left wanted them so the one they both chose was pretty much a definite! They even said early on if they didn't get the Same, they would not even run down the hill. They said they loved both sororities so they would be happy in either one, but they just wanted to be together regardless of which one they got. Well that morning they opened their bids. First one opened and was super excited. Second opens and looks at her sister and nods her head. They both immediately knew they had opened different sororities. To make a long story short. They decide to run and go their separate ways. The moment the one Of them headed down the hill in tears, the right someone got a hold of her. From that moment on, these girls tell me the Holy Spirit took over. The day became perfect. It wasn't about what they didn't get, it became about what they did get. The girls in what she thought were the wrong letters because her sister wasn't there  became her new sisters. They did and said all
The right things to show her she was exactly where she was meant to be. I got chills when she told me how amazing these girls made her feel. And she realized  right there how bad they wanted her. She said she couldn't imagine being in any other sorority now. As they gripped each other yesterday, they said, it takes change to grow. This experience has forced us to grow. This wasn't about "our" choice it became Gods choice. By all
Means both girls were not meant to have the same bid because someone above intervened. I love what they said. One of them grabbed the other and said. She use to be my confidence. I had her everytime I walked into a room. I relied on her to be there for everything. She said that now she has learned to rely more on God and herself. Her sister will always be her sister. Now they will have each other but now they also have their own sisterhoods! Not only had their family grown, Their strength has grown!! If you don't know the Shockey twins and you have never heard their story, have them tell you. It is proof that God always has a plan for us even better than our own.
So these girls story made me think. That sorority God chose for me those 25 years ago not only gave me "sisters" whom became lifetime friends, and the time of my life in those 4 short years, but it gave me so much more.
10 years ago I found myself divorced with two kids and what we will call a life plan Gone bad. Stay at home moms can't feed, house, or clothe kids. So I had to make some changes. With a lapsed teacher certificate, I didn't know what to do. One of those "sisters" gave me the idea to open frolic. She Believed in me and taught me how to do this business because she had opened a store herself! Wow! Just think, 25 years ago that day God showed me those three jerseys, he knew all this would happen. He knew Amy would be my saving grace in more ways than one. He knew that sorority sister would give me the idea to open Frolic, and what a blessing This store has been to my family. So many of my blessings are these college girls whom
I get to watch grow into young ladies during their stay at UNA where it all started for me. I get to share my own experiences with them, and I get to hear about their own experiences. I learn from all of them. They have inspired me to start this blog and expand my website. When we are young, no one can tell us what to do, but someone can share something with us and if we are actually listening and  we can relate then it just might make a difference in our own lives. Hence I write my blog!!

 Thanks to the Shockey Sisters for sharing their story. It wows me at such young ages, they saw Gods glory in the beginning of the whole thing. So my friends here is what I know. There are no coincidences in this life whether it be the boy who broke up with you, the bid you did or Didn't get, or the job you lost or gained. It may sound cliche, but Everything happens for a reason, and it might be the next month or it might be 25 years later, but one day you'll think. Wow! That's what He was thinking.


4 comments


  • sondra wesley

    Tears in my eyes, as I read this, for these are my beautiful Godly Granddaughters, to whom am so very proud, of what they have accompolished in their short life, and can’t, wait to see, where they go from here, following, in Jesus footsteps, thank you so very much for writing, yours and theirs stories, God Bless…Sondra Wesley


  • sondra wesley

    Tears in my eyes, as I read this, for these are my beautiful Godly Granddaughters, to whom am so very proud, of what they have accompolished in their short life, and can’t, wait to see, where they go from here, following, in Jesus footsteps, thank you so very much for writing, yours and theirs stories, God Bless…Sondra Wesley


  • SK

    The Lord really is amazing! Your story touched my heart and the Lord used it to give me reassurance about my grandson joining a fraternity recently! The Lord is concerned about all that concerns us. I now feel in my spirit that my grandson is right where he needs to be! Thank you for sharing and may God continue to bless and use you!


  • Erin Shockey

    This left me in tears. Your words are so beautiful!! I love reading our story and I wouldn’t have wanted any other person to write about it. You are an inspiration and Rachel and I are so happy we can call you our friend!! Much love!!


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