Have u ever been in a relationship with someone and once it ended, you realized nothing was really as it seemed to you? MAybe you had the illusion this person was your happily ever after. Maybe you thought he loved and adored you. Or maybe you just knew he was the right person for you. Only to find after the fact that This Person was absolutely nothing at all like the guy you had him pegged out to be! Well of course he wasn’t! We’ve all heard the saying love is blind, but I don’t think that is really what it is. First of all, let me say that those kind of breakups can be much harder. Why is that? Well because you are on the mend from a heartbreak of an illusion not just your classic heartbreak. True heartbreaks hurt, but they are based more on truth and reality. Sometimes love just isn’t enough in reality. It’s hard but it’s just life. Not every relationship is going to Work out, but you know that. Yet, in an illusion Once u see the Person for who they Really are, first you should thank your lucky stars it is Over and that you have finally seen the light, then you are most likely Going to want to beat yourself up. You may think, how could I have been so dumb? Well don’t do that. Instead be grateful it ended and that you finally saw it clearly. If someone isn’t what we thought they were, that’s really our problem not theirs. It’s more a perception issue on Our part. We can’t change others nor can we make them love us or fit the illusion we have in our minds of the way We think things or they should be. As crazy as it sounds, we were the one who went in blind whether it was love or not. Sometimes we only see what we want to see. So what can we learn from a situation like this? Well we can Learn a lot about ourselves. We can figure out why we were so blind and why we ignored the red flags because even if he was the king of manipulators, you can bet he showed you signs. I find the key is to get to know yourself better. Get to a place where you don’t need a man in your life, then give it to God. If you ask him to give you clarity and wisdom, he will. If you willingly open your heart and mind, the information you need about someone will come to you before your blinders pop out. People tell us who they are, but we have to be willing to listen and perceive things as they are, not as we want them to be. Life isn’t a fairy tale promising you happily ever after, but I believe we are promised to live happily when and only when we simply Let Go Let God and live life on life’s terms not our own illusions.