Needing to Know

Have you ever been ghosted? Have you even been dumped or cheated on with zero explanation? Better yet, have you ever had someone do something that hurt you very much and they simply can’t or won’t tell you why? More than likely, one or all of the  above have happened to you or a close friend.  I can’t tell you how many times I have heard someone say to me, “I just need Some closure.” I’ve said it many times myself, but here is what I know. If someone isn’t the kind of person that gives you closure then that is really all you need to know and trying to figure out why or how they did what they did will do absolutely zero good. People give you all the information you need with their actions. If you keep trying to find closure, then it will keep you from moving on to bigger and better things. My happily or not so happily married friends probably don’t even know what ghosting means. Well, it is when you go out with someone and  you usually think it went reasonably well. Then you never hear  a word from them again! They just drop out of your world! If they even have a small amount of respect for you, they would not do anything like this. So here you go, you have all the information you need. If this person can’t even have the  decency to just say, “ I had a great time, but I just don’t think this is going to work.” If a man or woman cannot even give you that much  then good riddance.  Yes I know you have this burning desire to message them and say, what did I do wrong? Or maybe just  to ask them what happened? Or if they are in a coma?  But don’t!! Keep your dignity! If someone wants to talk to you, guess what? They will contact you!! If they wanted to go back out with you, they would have made sure you knew they enjoyed the date and they want to do it again! Anything other than that is information you think you need to know. If they are not talking to you, there is your closure! That is what you know, and it’s cut and dry!! I know we have all had someone dump us and they don’t really give us a reason and you know you have been guilty of the closure kick. That’s when you keep asking them to talk. You want to know why or what you did or what went wrong. Well if you are suppose to know, you will know. 99% of the time it’s nothing you did unless you know there something you owe some amends for!  In that case make it right. But, Most of the time it isn’t about you!  Its their own issues or it’s simply just that they are not in the same place you are or maybe you are not their right fit. You are still fabulous and there is someone who will recognize this! He or she may be a great catch or a great person, but they are not your person. So chalk it up to a heartbreak, disappointment, or big life lesson  and move on! The people who are meant to be in your life are going to be  obvious! You will “know” they are suppose to be there. The things you think you need to know will hold you back, and keep you from The happiness you deserve. You can be sad, angry, upset, and hurt but whatever you do don’t obsess on whAt you don’t know! All you need to know is there! Open your eyes and accept it and be grateful! This isn’t the kind of person you want in your life anyway! Great things are on the horizon! I “know” this to be true!!  

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