So have you ever been so frustrated when someone said to you, "it's not you, it's me." I Know I have. I have even gone as far as having a down right pity party by thinking to myself, why am I
Not enough? What Is wrong with me? Even though they just said it wasn't me! Newsflash!! I am
More than enough, and nothing is wrong with me! In these situations, it really isn't about you!! So No reason to get so bent of of shape! Two good people can go out, but they simply just may not be right for each other. I promise you this, Rejection is always Gods protection, and his plan for you is better!!
I also believe What people say to you, say about you, or put you through is about them. Not you here either. It could be about their own wants, needs, issues, desires, or simply just about who and what they are.
I will never Forget the first time I was upset with someone about something, and they said to me, " it's not about you" I was floored thinking to myself. What do you mean it's not about me? Of course it is... You did this and that and that and Blah blah blah. Yes they did, but it wasn't to hurt me it was simply because it was what they wanted to do. It was their choice, and hence my choice to make it about myself. Even my choice to tolerate that kind of behavior. This was the beginning of the end of my great big ego. Otherwise known as Edging God Out. It was when I started to realize not everything that happens around me or even to me is about me. It's my big ego that wants to believe it is! Everyone is running their own race in this life. Everyone has their own issues, bad days, times they don't feel like talking or seeing you. Everyone goes through stuff! Life isn't easy. So I choose to make my life, my issues, my stuff about me. I am going to let the other people in my life deal with their own stuff. So trust me when I tell you, if he doesn't call, if she seems distant, if things don't go according to your plan. Get rid of your ego. It's edging God out. Let him validate or reassure you! Let you be about you and him or her be about him or her. Trust me, if you do this, then your time together whether it be romance, friendship, siblings, or your parent, it will be far better! No one can make you feel anything unless you allow them to! Let you be you and me be me!!